None of us are really “too busy.” More often, we’re just too unorganized, distracted, or stressed

to think clearly about how we might help someone outside of our normal rhythm.

It wasn’t a dramatic rescue. Or a life-or-death moment.

It was just three quiet minutes of trying to help someone else.

A few weeks ago, a close friend reached out with an update. He explained that he had applied for a job with another company.

He’s a great guy—hardworking, intelligent, highly capable, and well connected to great people.

And I happened to know the people and position he was applying for.

So, I wanted to help.

I offered to reach out to a few folks who may be involved in the interview process. I had no motivation other than to share a few kind words on his behalf. I emailed three different people a similar note. That was it. He was very grateful.

The whole thing took less than three minutes and very limited energy.

Honestly? It energized me. It gave me joy. I felt better afterward than before I started.

It wasn’t hard. It wasn’t time-consuming. It was simple.

The “return on investment” was spectacular…and we don’t even know if he got the job yet!

Let’s break down the benefits of this tiny, intentional act:

• I helped someone who mattered to me. And I know how much he appreciated it. (Cue the endorphins.)
• I knew I was doing the right thing. (A deep level of peace.)
• I reconnected with two people I hadn’t spoken to in months. (Unexpected joy in reconnecting.)
• Ideally, I made THEIR job easier while trying to find the best candidate for their position (Providing them more energy for their families at day’s end.)
• I set an example for my own kids. (Leaving my actions to speak louder than my words. The most effective parenting strategy.)

None of us are really “too busy.” More often, we’re just too unorganized, distracted, or stressed to think clearly about how we might help someone outside of our normal rhythm.

But if you want to live a longer, healthier, more fulfilling life?

Get outside your comfort zone and do something helpful for someone else this week.

A few ideas:

• Leave a kind note under a coworker’s windshield wiper.
• Slip a handwritten message under your kid’s pillow.
• Call your mom in the middle of the day for no reason.
• Text a friend: “Just thinking about you. Hope you’re doing great.”
• Make pancakes with your son.
• Offer to speak up for someone who’s applying for a new role.
  
  

Yesterday, I called a neighbor I knew was out of town on vacation. He answered—probably assuming something was wrong.

I told him there was no emergency. I just wanted him to know I was thinking about him and hoped he was having a great time.

He paused. Then said, “Man, that means a lot.”

Most people would talk themselves out of it:   "I don’t want to bother anyone," they say to themselves.

But when was the last time it bothered you when someone called with encouragement? Left you a note? Sent a random text? Put in a good word for you behind the scenes?

Bringing something positive to someone's day is never a bother. It’s always a blessing.

So why not do a few more of those things that create a smile?

It might “stretch” you a bit, but you may live longer. And you’ll definitely feel better in the present.

Remain encouraged,
Brian

“Those who bring sunshine to the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves.”  -  J.M. Barrie

At Lone Oak, we're all about bringing a little sunshine to your life!